When entering a self-help group always look for the Exit sign.
Self-help groups can be a blessing but often in disguise.
The blessing is almost no matter what situation that you are in: Grief, Abuse, Anxiety and many more situations that are devastating, that we experience being not alone with this. It isnt personal and the sharing of strategies to cope, heal and just have somebody to talk to opens a door to healing and recovery. And it is all good. Friendships, relationships and visions of a life beyond pain starts to form. All good.
The problem or therapeutic problem is, that some stay there because they get validated, maybe for the first time in their lives, and so many are lonely. The Matrix being that we get validated because of our hurt and not in spite of our hurt. We get validated in tragedy or circumstances and not validated in who we really are.
We enter at group (tribal) consciousness that is soothing for us and gives us emotional support because of our hurt or ailment. The problem is what is wrong with us defines us and is our ticket and reason for being in the group.
Some react this way: They prolong the hurt, grief, Im still not well in order not to lose this newfound social reference. Others begin to identify with the reason for going there in the first place and it eats them up like a Predator on Steroids.